On my quest for meaning and purpose, I have found that some of the most random and unsuspecting things have contributed to moments of clarity. I thought I’d share some of these below, in the hope that they would help you have an epiphany or burst of inspiration and direction some day soon also.
Consciously focusing on loving yourself more
Okay, it sounds corny as all hell, but I have seriously seen this in both myself and my clients. As you learn to love and value yourself more, you become more likely to prioritise your needs and more ‘in tune’ with your passions and desires.
- What would I do differently if I loved myself more?
- What would I do today if I was my most confident and best self?
- What activities would I participate in if I loved myself more?
- Who would I spend my time with if I loved and valued myself more?
- What would I stop doing if I loved myself more?
- What would I start doing if I loved myself more?
- What would I do to look after myself and prioritise myself if I loved myself more?
- How would I make myself a priority if I loved myself more?
Using questions like these, write yourself a list of what your life would look like if you loved and valued yourself more. And then make a conscious effort to start doing these things. Make them happen. Now. You’ll be surprised at how much you grow and how much you learn about yourself and your desires in the process.
Learn to do less
Our life is usually full to the brim with 101 priorities. No wonder we get confused about big topics like purpose. When it comes to time to think about them, our mind is clouded and full and probably distracted.
Make a deliberate effort to get un-busy. To do less. To free up space in your brain and world for you. For your subconscious to allow it’s gems to bubble to the surface. For you to reflect with a clear-head on topics like passion and purpose.
Some ways to do this might include:
- Do a brain dump of the mental To Do list. Ask yourself what is absolutely critical and what isn’t. Which are absolute deadlines and which are deadlines that you’ve set for yourself? What would be the worst that would happen if I didn’t get that item done? Force yourself to drop some balls.
- Ask for help. Contact loved ones, colleagues, or professionals for help. Delegate. Outsource. Buy time.
- Give yourself permission to say “no”, to change your mind and decline events or offers, or to reschedule if required.
- Schedule time in your diary to just be. Make it a priority. Time for you. Meditate. Enjoy a cup of tea. Read a book. Sit out in the sun. Explore nature. Do something that doesn’t require brain power. Something that relaxes your brain and body.
Learn to do more
Yes, so now I’m telling you to do the opposite. But not in the way you think. I don’t want you to cancel out everything you just did to try and do less. Doing less is still important.
I want you to start doing more when it comes to discovering your purpose and passions. I want you to stop thinking about what they could be, and to start acting. To start opening some doors and seeing what comes next. To take risks and nervous steps towards the uncertainty and confusion.
I found on my own journey, and with my clients’ journeys, that the only way to get clarity sometimes is to start moving in a direction. To think of one thing you can do, that feels right, even if you’re not 100% sure it is the right thing to do – and to see what happens. Even if it doesn’t work out, even if it was a waste of time and money, it will quite often bring you some form of clarity – a door will open or close that you weren’t sure about before.
This is often basically about overcoming paralysis by analysis – you can read more about this here.
Write and act upon a ‘This Is Crazy’ List
To help you do more, it can be useful to write a ‘This Is Crazy’ list. This is a list of things that you can do to get clarity on your purpose that your brain is saying is crazy. Write a list of things that you can do that feels right, but might seem risky or might make others or even yourself think you’re a wee-bit crazy. Tune in to yourself and what intuitively feels right. Don’t censor yourself. Free flow. Let loose.
And then take some risks and start following through and acting on some of the items of your list. Even if they don’t work out, they will often come with pearler lessons or insights that will lead to clarity and direction around your purpose.
Establish a self care routine
The best epiphanies and moments of clarity have happened for me when I have prioritised self care. I have often thought up my best ideas whilst running on the treadmill, meditating, or soaking in the bath. I know that I am not alone here.
If you are run off your feet, tired, uninspired, and generally run down – you will likely find it much more difficult to find clarity and direction around your purpose.
Let go of finding your purpose
Finally, if you’re still struggling with finding your purpose, make a conscious effort to let go of the search for a while. Instead focus on living your life, taking note of the beauty in it and all you have to be grateful for, and focus on doing the things you love and spending time with those who uplift you. Give yourself a little break.
Give your full attention to filling your tank with self love and self care. Sometimes when we let go like this and focus on living and loving, the best epiphanies can strike – and even when they don’t, it can help to let go for a while and start a fresh.
I hope that these ideas help you on your journey to discovering your purpose. I know that they helped me personally, and have helped many of my clients also. I’d love if you’d share in the comments below, which suggestion you will attempt first in your pursuit for purpose – or whether you have any other surprise or random suggestions for people to try!
Let’s soar together,