I believe with every fiber of my being that you are incredibly special. Your mind, body, and spirit one-of-a-kind. I know that when you are ‘in tune’ with the intricacies of this uniqueness that you can best be of service to yourself, your loved ones and the world.
Below outlines 7 ways that you can identify your uniqueness.
Identify your Personal Psychological Resources
Your Personal Psychological Resources (PPRs) are the inner strengths or ‘mental’ resources that you use to achieve your goals or to overcome periods of stress or difficulty. They are the ‘tools’ that you store in your ‘internal toolkit’ to draw upon during times of need and to help you flourish in life.
Some ways of identifying your PPRs include reflecting on the below questions:
- What are your best traits and qualities? What do supportive love ones say are your best traits and qualities?
- How have you previously got through difficult periods in your life? What inner strengths or resources did you draw upon to get through these times?
- When you have had a difficult experience or conversation, what are some of the constructive ways, skills or resources that you used to deal with it?
- What are some of the achievements and successes you’ve had in life so far? What inner strengths and traits did you draw upon to make these?
When you know what your PPRs are, and view them as internal ‘tools’ in your toolkit, you can consciously draw upon them and use them to your advantage.
Identify your interests and passions
An obvious but essential component to identifying your uniqueness is to get clear on what your interests and passions are. What lights you up? What angers you? What do you Google? What topics do you read about? What could you talk about for hours on end? What makes you feel intelligent, happy, and inspired? What did you love doing as a child? If money wasn’t an issue, what would you love to do? If you had an extra hour in the day to spend just on you, what would you do? Get clear on what your unique interests and passions are, and make an active effort to make time for them in your life.
Learn to listen to your body
Just like your mind, interests, and inner resources, your body is unique. When it comes to taking care of it, what might work for one person won’t necessarily work for you. In order to give your body the most love you can, you need to learn to be ‘in tune’ with it and it’s unique needs.
Below are some ways to learn to listen to your body:
- Your body will often send you warning signs when it is beginning to feel stressed or pressured. Make a conscious effort to identify your personal warning signs. These might include for example: sickness (e.g., colds, head aches), niggling or reoccurring injuries, tiredness, difficulty sleeping, lack of concentration, and making silly mistakes. Once you have identified your warning signs, you can be more aware of what your body might need and capable of addressing these needs before they progress to something more sinister.
- Regularly do a meditation that focuses on scanning through each body part and ‘listening’ to what it might need and how you could take better care of it (note: I have a free guided meditation that does this – click on the image below to access it). For example, perhaps you feel tightness and need some stretches, heaviness in the eyes and need an early night, stiffness and need a massage, or bloated and need to focus on better nutrition. Regularly taking time out to identify what your body might need ‘in the moment’ is a beneficial way to focus on your unique body and it’s needs.
- Begin to keep a journal that tracks what you’re eating, how you’re moving, what self care you’re doing, and how you’re feeling. Look for patterns, identify what feels great and not so great, and make adjustments based on your findings. Rather than focusing on what you should be doing or not doing, keeping track of your personal experience and learning what your body desires can help you find your own unique formula to health and wellness.
Be clear on your values
Your values are what are of most importance to you, what you put the most value on, what makes you feel authentic and proud of yourself, and most in alignment with your best self.
You can identify your values by reflecting back and thinking about the times where you were most happy, proud, inspired, and fulfilled. For example, maybe you value compassion, exploration, nature, family, achievement, and generosity.
Identifying your personal values and making a conscious effort to live your life and make decisions that are in alignment with these values is a rewarding way to live in accordance with your uniqueness.
Write a list of activities that light you up
Having a go-to list of activities that make you feel your best is an essential part of embracing your uniqueness. What are the things that make you feel calm, happy, and energised? Who are the people that make you feel supported and uplifted? Based on your answers to these questions, write yourself a list of activities that you can refer to when you need a boost or want to feel energised and inspired. They might include for example: walking down the beach, having a coffee with Jenny, meditating, volunteering, painting, or reading.
Listen to your intuition
Another way to identify your uniqueness is to make a deliberate effort to foster and listen to your intuition. We often ‘live’ from our head, thinking, analysing, and making decisions based purely on logic. Learning to ‘tune in’ to your heart, and listen to what feels right will often give you insights and clues into your uniqueness.
Embrace your quirks and eccentricities
We are all weird in our own way. We all have quirks and eccentricities. Identifying and embracing our weirdness will often reveal gems about your uniqueness and how you can use it to serve yourself and the world.
Embracing your weirdness and what makes you different to others can be liberating and can ‘allow’ you to be your unique self. Embracing your unique self is your superpower. It is the key to embracing your inner superhero.